Sarah Summers on Martin "Katie" Neeves and his trans awareness courses - where he shares his tales of sexual excitement on first wearing his sister's knickers to a bemused audience of suits:
Businesses are paying transgender activist Katie Neeves to run internal trans awareness seminars to educate staff on what it means to be a transgender woman.
On the surface this appears to send a positive message to employees, demonstrating a commitment to inclusion and equality. Giving a voice to underrepresented and marginalised minorities seems to be a laudable attempt by employers at demonstrating LGBTQ allyship.
But in reality, these “educational” sessions are pushing a homophobic and sexist ideology disguised as progress and liberalism. Misogyny is misogyny, even if the misogynist is wearing a woman’s blouse.
Katie Neeves came out as a transgender woman at the age of 49 and three years on claims he “lives as a woman” full time. Living as a woman, according to Neeves, is wearing a short skirt and boots and having white van drivers stop to let you cross the road....
Neeves’s website states, “I offer a very personal, powerful and authentic insight into what it’s like to be transgender in the UK” and he has delivered training to many organisations including Deutche Telekom, Virgin Media and Zurich Insurance.
Neeves recently delivered a webinar to a large, London-based corporation as part of LGBT history month. The event was billed as an informative and entertaining session lead by an “inspirational trans ambassador”.
It is presumptuous to assume the entire transgender community is comfortable with Neeves representing them. Neeves has given himself the brand name “Cool2btrans”, which is exactly the kind of name one might expect a mediocre 52-year-old male with sexual kinks to give himself.
Six minutes into the session and Neeves is recounting feelings of excitement, shame and humiliation after being caught wearing his sister’s underwear. He speaks of secretly wearing the clothes of family members and girlfriends well into his 20s. The male entitlement is smug and brazen, the consent of the women he violated irrelevant.
It is difficult to think of an appropriate time to talk about knickers to a room full of strangers, particularly when they’re at work, yet Neeves gleefully manages to drop the word in at every opportunity. He speaks of wearing women’s knickers on a first date, his eyes partially shut, his lips curled with euphoria. It’s uncomfortable to watch, and Neeves’s demeanour suggests the audience’s discomfort is very much his intention.
If a man presenting as male delivered a professional seminar where he talked salaciously about wearing his sister’s underwear without her consent then he would be branded a pervert and swiftly escorted from the building.
Neeves identifies as a woman and therefore has his audience by the balls. Neeves claims to be part of an oppressed, marginalised minority. To feel uncomfortable with Neeves giggling as he recounts the shame and humiliation of secretly wearing his sister’s clothes is to be bigoted and transphobic. To be a good ally is to support all LGBTQ people, and Neeves suggests that wearing your sister’s underwear is a transgender woman’s right of passage. But it’s not. It’s really not. It’s invasive. It’s a violation of trust. It sits uncomfortably on the border of sexual abuse.
In Neeves’ own words: “It felt so right, yeah so right. But then those feelings of feeling right were quickly overtaken by feelings of guilt and shame and self-loathing because what I was doing was wrong. It was dirty. It was naughty.”
It’s clear the act of wearing his sister’s underwear was exciting and arousing for Neeves. The sexual suggestion is there, without ever saying he was masturbating.
Employers have a duty of care to their female employees, many of whom will have experienced sexual violence. Expecting women to sit through a seminar where a man is recounting what comes across as illicit sexual arousal is irresponsible and inappropriate, it sends the message that female consent isn’t important or relevant.
Neeves is clearly autogynephilic - aroused at the idea of himself as a woman. Which is fine in the privacy of his home, but kind of odd when presented as a positive lifestyle choice to a room full of office workers hoping to be enlightened on "LGBTQ allyship".
Did they give out educational gift packs with women's knickers, I wonder? I hope Deutche Telekom, Virgin Media, Zurich Insurance and the rest feel they got their money's worth. Perhaps they'll be replacing the old "dress-down Friday" with the new "cross-dressing Friday". What exciting times these are.
More on Neeves from Genevieve Gluck:
In 2020, he published an open letter to J.K. Rowling in response to her essay expressing concern at the clash between gender ideology and women’s rights. He accused the renowned author of “peddling anti-trans mis-information” and made an unfounded claim that her “diatribe directly caused some trans children to self-harm and other to attempt suicide.”
According to Neeves, he is currently on the BBC’s and ITV’s list of experts for “when they need transgender people they can call on who will speak out and represent the trans community well.”
I feel transgender people are suffering mental problems and treat them as such. If they appear dangerous I keep well away and the others with a distant courtesy.I am particularly acquainted with one who is an irritating nuisance but I think he would be irritating no matter what sex he claimed to be.
Posted by: johnd2008 | March 02, 2022 at 01:50 AM
If he got that much thrill from wearing his sister's knickers he's not transgender he's a fetishist. This can be treated - and should be.
Posted by: sailor1031 | March 04, 2022 at 02:34 PM